Aren't you worried about interaction with other children?

This post is a bit of a rant.

Near the first day of school in our city, a cashier at Stop and Shop, who is probably around my mother's age, asked Esme if she was ready for school to start. Esme said, "I'm homeschooled," and the cashier said, "Oh!" and I paid, we left, etc. Last week the same cashier said to Esme, "How's school going?," then remembered us and said, "Oh wait you're homeschooled." Then she turned to me and said, "Aren't you worried about interaction with other children?" Sigh. If you are homeschooler, you may have had this conversation 1,000 times.

I have many ways of dealing with this question, or the more typical, what about socialization? If someone is not a complete stranger and usually pretty nice, like this cashier, I usually say lightly, "Trust me, she's a social butterfly. She's just fine!" One day a nosy person who happened to be doing my taxes asked me about it and I said, "Well when I want her to be socialized, I take her in the bathroom, beat her up, and offer her drugs. {long pause with hard stare} Just kidding!" Sometimes extremely rude strangers question us - now that Esme is is bigger they realize that other kids her age are in school. Ethan was once accosted by someone about it at the deli counter. For them, I bring out the hard stare, and tell them we're not worried about it.

There is one other thing that people say all the time that bugs me. "You're homeschooling? That's great!!" This confuses me. If it's a stranger, again, making judgments about my life choices although they don't know me, I usually say, "Is it?" Cause why do they think so? They don't know me - maybe it's terrible! If it's someone I sort of know, I usually say, "Thanks, we think it is."

Maybe I am getting more snarky or more bitter? I don't know. I feel like when strangers choose to be that familiar, I have to say something to back them off. I try not to be rude about it (okay maybe I was a little rude to the tax guy) but I don't understand why people feel free to offer their opinions so much on this. I don't offer my opinion on their decision to send their children to school. It would be equally weird if they said, "My daughter goes to public school," and I said, "That's great!!" Maybe it is great - I have no idea!

Okay this homeschooling mom is done ranting for today. I'm off to edit Esme's essay on her trip to The Big E.

Poor Poor Poor Poor Poor Poor Esme

Esme thinks we're working her too hard this year. We have stepped up academics a bit and are focusing pretty intensely on her Math skills. She also had to work with me to create a web of her experiences at The Big E and is now working on a rough draft of her writing assignment. Frankly, we don't feel bad for her. She has no idea about waking up early, going to school 30+ hours a week, etc.


Right now she and Ethan are finishing up The Knight at Dawn and she designed her own coat of arms. She's also enjoying her swimming and ballet lessons.